Chat Rules
A short list, enforced consistently, in every room on the network. These rules exist for one reason: to keep the rooms worth being in. Entering any room on A Big Chat means you've agreed to all of them.
Rule one
1. Every Room Is 18+. No Exceptions.
Every person in every room on A Big Chat must be 18 years of age or older. Age is confirmed at entry, and misrepresenting your age — in the entry form, in a room, in a private message, or "as a joke" — is an immediate, permanent ban. Where the situation warrants it, we escalate beyond a ban, including reports to the appropriate authorities. There is no version of this rule with flexibility in it, and attempting to interact with anyone you believe may be underage is treated with the same severity as being underage yourself: instant removal, permanent, escalated where appropriate.
If you ever encounter someone in a room who you suspect is under 18, report it immediately from inside the chat. That report jumps every queue we have.
Rule two
2. Consent Is Not Optional
Being in a room means you're open to the conversation of that room — it never means you owe anyone a private message, a reply, a photo, or anything else. "No" means no. Silence means no. Leaving means no. Pushing after any of these is harassment, and repeated pursuit of someone who has declined — in public or in private messages — ends your time here.
In Roleplay Chat, this extends to fiction: scene direction is negotiated out-of-character, anyone may tap out of any scene at any time without owing a reason, and pursuing a writer who tapped out is treated exactly like pursuing anyone else who said no.
Rule three
3. No Harassment, No Hate
Disagreement is conversation; attacks are not. Arguments stay about the topic, never the person, and sustained targeting of any chatter — insults, pile-ons, following someone between rooms — is a removal.
Slurs, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, racism, and bigotry of any kind end your visit immediately. There is no warnings ladder for hate and no "context" that changes the outcome. This includes bait dressed as debate — demanding that gay or bi chatters justify their existence, "just asking questions" trolling, and interrogating people about their identity are enforcement matters, not conversations.
Rule four
4. Protect Everyone's Privacy — Including Yours
Never share another person's personal information or images. Not their name, location, workplace, socials, photos, or anything else that connects a nickname to a life — in any room, in private messages, or anywhere off-site. This is an immediate permanent ban and, depending on what was shared, potentially a legal matter.
No outing, ever. What someone shares about their identity, orientation, or life in these rooms is theirs alone to share elsewhere. That includes outing someone to a spouse or partner, and it includes treating a nickname's real identity as a puzzle to solve. For many of our chatters, anonymity is the condition that makes honesty possible — breaking it for anyone breaks it for everyone.
Protect your own privacy too: keep your real name, face, and details out of public rooms, and share privately only at the speed of trust.
Rule five
5. No Soliciting, No Spam, No Commerce
These rooms are for chat, not transactions. No advertising, no link-dropping, no selling anything — content, services, or otherwise — and no promoting other platforms. Repetitive messages, flooding, and bot behavior are removals.
Recruiting is soliciting: couples trawling for a third, "managers" scouting, and any variation of treating chatters as inventory ends your visit. Anyone pushing you to move to another platform quickly, asking for money, or requesting images should be reported rather than engaged — those are the standard opening moves of scams, and reports help us spot the pattern across nicknames.
Rule six
6. Right Room, Right Content
Each room has its own purpose, and content belongs where it belongs. Explicit chat lives in Sex Chat — that room exists precisely so the others don't have to carry it. Adult Chat, Gay Chat, and Bisexual Chat are 18+ social rooms where flirting is part of the fabric but explicit content is not; take it to Sex Chat or to private messages where both people have said yes. In Roleplay Chat, public scenes are written to the fade, and fully explicit scenes go to Sex Chat or mutually-agreed private messages. Bringing the wrong content into the wrong room after a moderator asks you to move it is a removal.
How it's enforced
Reporting and Enforcement
Human moderators are present in the rooms. They know the regulars, they can tell an argument from an attack, and they have discretion — most minor issues get a word before they get a removal. The exceptions are the lines above marked immediate: age misrepresentation, hate, sharing people's information, and outing skip every ladder.
If someone crosses a line with you, use the report function inside the chat — it reaches a real person, not a queue. Include what happened and roughly when; if it happened in private messages, say so. Reports matter even when you handled the situation yourself, because patterns across nicknames are how repeat offenders get found. For anything that needs more than an in-chat report, use the contact form and choose "Abuse Report."
Our standing policy, network-wide: we would rather lose a rule-breaker than a good room. Bans are not opening offers, and ban evasion extends them. These rules operate alongside our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy, and where moderator judgment is needed, moderators have it.